I found friends in rehab. They are awesome persons who -obviously- have similar problems to mine. I am still connected to them even if we cannot meet in person because they live a bit far away. My rehab roommate called me today. She felt lost and told me her story. She started meeting with the others several weeks ago. Everything was fine; however, there were warning signs especially regarding drinking. Well, all four of them are now drinking again. I was surprise when I heard this but of course I don’t judge them at all. Today my friend admitted that she took in one of our male friends. He is very troubled and he has several types of mental illness, such as schizophrenia and borderline personality disorder. He takes medications but they don’t help because he drinks on them. Anyhow, they fell in love…kind of. She mostly feels sorry for him. He basically has no place to go. The rehab center doesn’t take him in anymore (I am not sure about the reason) and he refuses to go to the psych ward. These are “small” problems compared to what my friend eventually told me once she felt that I would always understand her. The do have fun. Sometimes. Sometimes he is OK but then all of a sudden he gets very sad…and then mean. I had a bad feeling so I asked if he ever hit her. The answer was yes. She said it was just (!!!) a slap, so no big deal. Now I am a person who doesn’t think that if a guy wants to hug me without me knowing him is sexual assault (sorry, I grew up in a culture in which this was not a reason for reporting them). But hitting? Whoa, that is a whole different case. Besides, it did not happen only once (not that it matters, one is more that enough). She has no idea what to do. It seems that she really doesn’t think that slapping is an issue.
The whole thing makes me sad. Of course I cannot solve the problem, it is not my task. I can only listen but I am really worried about her…and about the others as well.