I knew the Four Agreements; I actually studied it long time ago. However, I stopped caring about it just like I stopped caring about other spiritual aspects of my life. I pretended that I was still spiritual…when I tried to help others; not when I needed to help myself.
H. read the entire book when he was in rehab. By the time I got in, it mysteriously disappeared from the tiny library but the basic principles were written on a bulletin board in the lounge. H. bought me a copy and brought it in. Oh yes, I remembered. On the other hand, I was surprised. I had no clue that The Four Agreements can provide guidance to addicted people who have to recover their mind.
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.
― Miguel Ruiz,